Your great mistake is to act the drama
as if you were alone. As if life
were a progressive and cunning crime
with no witness to the tiny hidden
transgressions. To feel abandoned is to deny
the intimacy of your surroundings. Surely,
even you, at times, have felt the grand array;
the swelling presence, and the chorus, crowding
out your solo voice You must note
the way the soap dish enables you,
or the window latch grants you freedom.
Alertness is the hidden discipline of familiarity.
The stairs are your mentor of things
to come, the doors have always been there
to frighten you and invite you,
and the tiny speaker in the phone
is your dream-ladder to divinity.
Put down the weight of your aloneness and ease into
the conversation. The kettle is singing
even as it pours you a drink, the cooking pots
have left their arrogant aloofness and
seen the good in you at last. All the birds
and creatures of the world are unutterably
themselves. Everything is waiting for you.
“Everything is Waiting for You” by David Whyte
What we will become
waits in us like an ache.
Excerpt from “birth - day” by Lucille Clifton
Everything is gestation and then bringing forth.
Rainer Maria Rilke
But this unflinching soul-baring, confessional attitude quickly becomes boring. It is like trees without shadows. Shy people have long shadows, where they keep much of their beauty hidden from intruders' eyes. Shy people remind us of the mystery of life that cannot be simply explained or expressed. They invite us to reverent and respectful friendships and to a wordless being together in love.
Women are very quarrelsome and jealous. We always make it up, especially after we had a few brandies and consumed I don’t know how many chicken legs. Because we realize that what we gain by forgiving one another is better than what we gain by being alone to avoid jealousy.
From Feminism With a Small “F" by Buchi Emecheta
I could show you fear in a handful of dust. T.S. Elliott